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Seasons of Life

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It’s good to be posting again after a longer than expected break.

I’ve been learning a lot lately about being still and content during different seasons of life.

The Bible has something to say about these seasons of life.

There is a time for everything,
    and a season for every activity under the heavens:

      a time to be born and a time to die,
    a time to plant and a time to uproot,
      a time to kill and a time to heal,
    a time to tear down and a time to build,
      a time to weep and a time to laugh,
    a time to mourn and a time to dance,
      a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
    a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
      a time to search and a time to give up,
    a time to keep and a time to throw away,
      a time to tear and a time to mend,
    a time to be silent and a time to speak,
      a time to love and a time to hate,
    a time for war and a time for peace.

What do workers gain from their toil? I have seen the burden God has laid on the human race. He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end. I know that there is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while they live. That each of them may eat and drink, and find satisfaction in all their toil—this is the gift of God.  

Ecclesiastes 3:1-14

The season that I have just been through has required me to drop what is routine and important to me and go with the flow of new happenings.

I’m the type that doesn’t like change and I feel guilty if I am not accomplishing all the tasks that I have planned for a productive day.

Over the last few months, my daily routine has been very different from normal—less writing, working out, volunteering; more down time, travel, and familial support in great achievements and concerning developments.

In May my husband and I had the great joy of celebrating two of our grandchildren’s high school graduations. We are so proud of both who graduated with honors and will be attending college this fall. These are major milestones we are privileged to see and experience after much prayer over the years.

We even took a few days to relax at the beach when we traveled to back Florida (our previous home) for our grandson’s graduation. It was a great mini-vacation, and I thoroughly enjoyed every moment of it.

In December of last year, we found out that my husband had prostate cancer, and thankfully it was caught in the early stages.

We were not caught by surprise, because he had been monitoring his PSA levels for a couple of years. But still, the news of the diagnosis was unsettling.  

We kept it to ourselves during our Christmas stay with my parents until we could get more information regarding treatment, eradication, and chance of return.

After meeting with the urologist, surgical oncologist, and radiologist, my husband maintained his decision for a different course of treatment.

I wanted him to “get it taken care of asap,” but I knew it was my responsibility to support his decision, which would mean more doctor’s visits that would require travel outside of our home state, South Carolina.

So, with the blessing of these doctors who told us that he had time to make an informed decision, we started our research for proton therapy treatment.

After many phone calls and traveling to three different cities, we finalized the how, where, and when questions we needed answered.

I am happy to share that just last week, six months after the diagnosis, my husband completed the treatment plan that he preferred and is feeling well enough to go back to work.

He has had one concerning persistent side effect that we are trying to manage with medication. 

The whole process has been a journey in trusting God for guidance, peace of mind, and healing.

We have to return to the oncology center for his three-month post treatment analysis, so we realize that this process will be ongoing, and we will continue to seek our Heavenly Father for comfort and wisdom.  

I would like to add that I am grateful that all the years of staying in God’s word has allowed me to have peace and be resourceful through it all.

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Philippians 4:6-7

As seasoned followers of Christ, my husband and I knew we could trust God to provide everything we needed to get to and through his treatment.

We prayed and maintained our emotional stability, even when breaking the news to our family members. Some cried being terrified of the word “cancer,” while others were supportive in offering their knowledge of having survived cancer or having worked in the field of cancer diagnoses and treatment.

And God, in His goodness, provided a church member who had just completed the same treatment that my husband preferred.

This church member, now a dear friend, met with us to talk about his experience of the treatment and answered any questions we had. He kept in touch with my husband throughout the whole process of trying to find the right treatment center as well as during the treatment.

What was even more encouraging was the fact that he shared his three-month follow-up with great news of a healthy PSA level. Thank you, dear Jesus!

Even though not planned originally, my husband had his treatment at the same center as our friend from church.

God always provides!

In the words of Paul, the apostle,

 And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.

To our God and Father be glory for ever and ever. Amen.

Philippians 4:19-20

In His goodness, God provided peace, relaxation, and even joy in the midst of waiting.  

It was just what our eternal Doctor knew we needed.

God is so good to us—exactly the reason I started this blog over two years ago to share His goodness with you and to praise Him for it.

I hope this blesses you in a way to help you be still and allow the seasons or changes in your life to unfold in a peaceful manner while yet experiencing joy in the midst of it.  

I’ve included the song below for your listening pleasure. May it bless you as you recall God’s goodness in your life.

Seasons and Your Grace – Verse of Grace Studio

What Does it Mean to Be Blessed?

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We’ve all seen the decorative motif “BLESSED” worn or displayed proudly on personal items like t-shirts, bracelets, pillows, and—yes, even on license plates!

But what does it mean to be blessed?

I think many of us would agree that a blessing is something that benefits us and makes us happy.

For example, a blessing could be something that we’ve been wanting or anticipating, like a home or a trip that we’ve been saving for.

It could be having enough money in an account to take care of emergencies, help others, or provide for anything you want or need.

Or it could even be something that is not material or monetary, like good news from the doctor about a health concern.

Let’s take a look at what the Bible says about blessings.

The Blessing of Peace

In the book of Philippians, the apostle Paul writes to those in the church in Philippi about having peace in their daily lives.

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Philippians 4:6-7

What a blessing peace is in the midst of turmoil!

God wants us to have this type of peace “that surpasses all understanding” when we face uncertain times much like today.

We are experiencing many issues within and outside the U.S. that make the most confident of men concerned.

Economic uncertainty, division (even within our families and churches) due to political turmoil, and wars and rumors of wars are at an all-time high.

When we understand and believe that God is still on the throne, we can give these concerns to Him and relax knowing that He is in charge of ALL the affairs of the world.

This doesn’t mean that we have a nonchalant attitude. On the contrary, we should stay informed of what’s going on, but we don’t let it overwhelm us and ruin our peace.

If you’re a child of God and you’ve walked with Him through good times and bad, you know that He loves you and will take you through the storms of life to a better outcome.

Trials serve to build our trust in God and create an unshakeable faith that brings peace.

For more on the promise of faith, see my post Trusting God.

The Blessing of Discipline

While most of us don’t like discipline, we would welcome it if we understood the blessing it holds for us.

The author of Psalm 94 tells us so.

Blessed is the one you discipline, Lord,
    the one you teach from your law;

Psalm 94:12

Likewise, the author of Hebrews 12 expounds on the blessing of discipline from the LORD.

“. . .My child, don’t make light of the Lord’s discipline,
    and don’t give up when he corrects you.
For the Lord disciplines those he loves,
    and he punishes each one he accepts as his child.”

As you endure this divine discipline, remember that God is treating you as his own children. . .For our earthly fathers disciplined us for a few years, doing the best they knew how. But God’s discipline is always good for us, so that we might share in his holiness. No discipline is enjoyable while it is happening—it’s painful! But afterward there will be a peaceful harvest of right living for those who are trained in this way.

Hebrews 12:5-11

If you are a godly parent, you instruct your children so they know what is best for them. You want them to act in a way that leads them to good outcomes so they may have productive lives that lead to peace and happiness.

When they act in ways that bring destruction into their lives, you discipline them and give them consequences for their actions to turn them around.

Discipline does not mean abuse; it means loving instruction and consequences for wrong actions. Your child may not like it, but you do it because you love them and want what is best for their future.

This is why God disciplines us—to lead us to a sound future with peace and happiness.

The Blessing of Eternal Life

Who wouldn’t want to live forever in a world of continual peace, without physical and emotional pain, rejection, unjust criticism, lies, fraud, division, war, —you name it?

This is the way God intended for us to live from the creation of the world. This is the way that Adam and Eve, the first man and woman God created, lived in the beginning with God.

But sin changed all that by separating us physically from God. We were thrown out of the Garden of Eden and placed in a tainted world susceptible to Satan’s wiles.

Because of sin everything changed, and we now live with all the consequences that drive discontent and fear into our lives.

Our hearts, minds, and bodies are affected by sin every day which is why we see so much mental illness, disease and premature death, as well as division among family members and fellow citizens.

Thankfully, God has provided the solution to this sin problem and its effects. He has promised us that we can go back to the way He intended us to live from the beginning.

This is the promise of eternal life with Him in peace and without the woes of the world we experience today.

We can have this peace today while we’re still living in this world AND be reunited with our heavenly Father when we are called home.

The apostle John who lived and walked with the LORD Jesus over two-thousand years ago bears witness in his letter to us.

“For God so loved the world, that He gave His only Son, so that everyone who believes in Him will not perish, but have eternal life. For God did not send the Son into the world to judge the world, but so that the world might be saved through Him. The one who believes in Him is not judged; the one who does not believe has been judged already, because he has not believed in the name of the only Son of God. 

John 3:16-18

There is a choice that we have to make—we must recognize that we are sinners, repent of our sins, ask the LORD Jesus to save us, and earnestly seek after Him.

We must choose to receive His free gift of eternal life simply by believing in Him.

My prayer for you is to choose (if you haven’t already) Jesus Christ as your LORD and Savior so you will have the blessing of eternal life.

In my next post I plan to write about and explain the blessings we receive when we follow our LORD and Savior Jesus Christ as he taught us in Matthew 5 from His Sermon on the Mount. I hope you’ll join me.

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As usual, I have included a beautiful song for your listening pleasure, and I can’t think of a more uplifting song to share with you for this post.

If you want to have a relationship with God and are not sure how or where to start, see my previous posts Relationship with God and Relationship with God – Part 2.

Honor Your Father and Mother

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We all have heard this since we were young children. Those of us who were brought up in church were taught to memorize this commandment given to the Israelites by God after they left Egypt on their way to the promised land. 

Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long upon the land which the Lord your God is giving you. 
Exodus 20:12

In the book of Ephesians, the apostle Paul echoes this command in his letter to the church in Ephesus.

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother,” which is the first commandment with promise: "that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.” 
Ephesians 6:1-3

Did you notice the promise made to those who kept this commandment? It is a blessing of favor and long life from God.

Honoring our parents was not so difficult to do for most of us as a child. I say most of us, because I don’t want to assume that I know or understand everyone’s childhood experiences. When we were children, most of us naturally bonded with our parents and would listen to them, whether or not they were wrong.

I read an online news article that caught my attention—Why So Many Young People Are Cutting Off Their Parents. It was about adult children refusing to have a relationship with their parents and the numbers are alarming. It stated, “The rise in millennials and Gen Zers coming forward to discuss their own crises—the hashtag #ToxicFamily has 1.9 billion views on TikTok—may suggest that American families are severing ties at an all-time high.” It reports the sad reality of how disagreements between parents and adult children lead to a breakdown in the family, which is not pleasing to God.

Again, I want to stress that I understand there were some parents who probably did not treat their children as God instructed. I am not negating the fact that there were children who were abused or neglected, which is not a part of God’s design. My intention is to address the bond between parents and children that was ordained by God.

Parents also have responsibility to God in how they raise their children. 

And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord. 
Ephesians 6:4


God does not expect obedience from children only. He also expects obedience from parents to Him. He does not want parents to abuse their children and He makes this very clear. Parents must not treat their children unfairly, abuse or neglect them, or just be so hard on them as to make them angry.  

Regarding neglect, God is very clear as well.

But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. 
1 Timothy 5:8

These scripture verses address fathers primarily because fathers are traditionally given the responsibility as providers and disciplinarians for the family. Today for various reasons, some families have mothers as the head of household and these instructions are directed to them as well. God tells us that parents should teach their children His ways so that they will commit in obedience. 

Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.
Proverbs 22:6

This does not mean that children and young adults will be perfect, it just means that when they reach a certain age, they will know how to live their lives and follow through—even if we must hold on to the promise that they will eventually do so.   

What about honoring father and mother when the children are now adults and disagree with their parents?

If an adult child is being disobedient in God’s eyes, it is understandable that the parent(s) would have a disagreement and discussion with their child. This may not be pleasing to the adult child, but it will be an opportunity for restoration. If the child still does not listen, then the parents should pray and ask God for His intervention. This may not be an easy outcome for the disobedient young adult, but you can trust God that He will bring your child around. Remember to continue to pray even if you don’t see changes and it takes a while. God’s word does not return void.

I want to go back to a scripture verse we looked at above in Ephesians. 

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 
Ephesians 6:1

Let’s focus on three words in this verse. In the Lord means to obey your parents in the Lord’s ways and instructions. We must obviously continue to honor our parents as adult children. This means to treat them with respect and to be kind and patient with them. This does not mean if their advice to you is opposite of God’s will that you put their will over God’s will. No, as an adult, you must follow God’s will over your parents’ will. I encourage you to know what God’s will is for your life; to study God’s word and commune with Him daily. Having a relationship with God through His Son, Jesus Christ, is paramount to knowing God and His will.

What if the adult child is indeed following God, but the parents don’t want to acknowledge that God is bringing about His plan for their child’s life?

Parents, in their own human nature, can be overprotective which can be very stressful for an adult child. Let’s say that this adult child is trying to follow God’s plan for their life. This can be challenging when the parents don’t understand or they may not be following God themselves. Avoiding an argument can be achieved by keeping a calm demeanor and disagreeing politely while explaining what they believe God is showing them in their lives.

Finding Reconciliation:

So what do we do when we cannot come to an agreement and each time we (parents and adult children) are together the tension rises? We are told to pray. 

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. 
Philippians 4:6-7

God hears His children’s prayers. He knows all about our struggles and relationships. Continue to pray until you see God act. He will either change your or your parents’ outlook or maybe even have you both meet somewhere in the middle regarding your disagreement.

My current journey:

As I write this, my relationship with my parents has been somewhat trying lately. First, I will say that I love my parents and have never and will never cut them off. At this time, my concern is for their well-being, especially now that they are both in their eighties and do not live near me. I have other siblings, but I am the adult child they chose to help them navigate their lives now that they are getting older. I visit them during the year for holidays, during the summer, and when they need help with certain issues. My personal wish is that they would come to live with me since they are starting to need more help. My husband and I have offered our home to them with a nice private bedroom/bathroom ensuite. God has blessed us so that we work from home and have plenty of room in our house to share with my parents. They, however, prefer to stay in their own home. I disagree with them on this, but I have to be respectful of their wishes. They know that regardless of our differences in opinion, I will be there for them.

I hold on to God’s word tightly and because I honor my parents I believe I will be blessed immeasurably by God.

I know that one day I will no longer be able to pick up the phone and hear their voices. I want to be able to look back and feel good about how I was willing to respect my parents and reciprocate love, care, and protection at a time when they needed me.

I look forward to receiving your stories about how you have honored your parents.

Below is a beautiful song by Ed Sheeran. It’s entitled “Supermarket Flowers” and it’s a tribute to his maternal grandmother from his mother’s perspective. I was very impressed and touched by this song.  

Why So Many Young People Are Cutting Off Their Parents

https://www.cosmopolitan.com/lifestyle/a44178122/family-estrangement-cut-off-parents/