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Israel—Chosen by God: Jacob – Part 5

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In the previous post, Israel—Chosen by God: Jacob – Part 4, we left off with Jacob getting ready to meet his brother Esau whom he hadn’t seen in 20 years. He feared Esau would harm him and his family, so he sent his servants ahead of him and his family away from him, just in case. Then the Angel of the LORD came to Jacob and struggled with him. God renamed him “Israel” for contending with Him and prevailing.

Today we will learn about Israel’s encounter with Esau.

Jacob was now limping as he was walking toward Esau because his hip was pulled from its socket during the encounter with the Angel of the LORD. He went ahead of his family to meet Esau and bowed seven times before Esau as a sign of peace and humility. Esau surprised him by embracing and kissing him, and after meeting Jacob’s family, he asked Jacob why he sent all the gifts by his servants. Jacob explained that he wanted favor from him.  

Esau was also wealthy and told Jacob to keep the gifts for himself, but Jacob insisted that he take them.

Jacob said, “No, please, if I have found favor in your sight, then accept my present from my hand. For I have seen your face, which is like seeing the face of God, and you have accepted me. Please accept my blessing that is brought to you, because God has dealt graciously with me, and because I have enough.” Thus he urged him, and he took it.

Genesis 33:10-11 ESV

This is a good lesson in making amends with estranged family members.

There were no harsh words traded, no past wrongs brought up; just every effort made by both parties to make peace and get along with each other.

Be humble and do everything possible to make peace; and accept the peace offering made by the person who humbles himself to start the healing process. 

This is how our heavenly Father wants us to be—at peace with one another.

After 20 years of separation, perhaps they both learned that nothing is worth harboring hurt and doing harm to one another.

Esau wanted Jacob to travel back with him, but Jacob insisted that he would only slow him down with children and so many livestock.

Jacob traveled on to Shechem where he made his home and Esau went back to his home in Seir.

Shechem and Seir were a great distance from each other and it was probably best that these brothers settled so far apart. Who knows what could have happened to their relationship if they had lived near each other. Remember that Jacob was the youngest and was given the blessing to rule over Esau and his offspring.

I believe that it was by God’s design that they lived apart from one another due to His plans for Jacob, now called Israel.

Israel was chosen by God to become a mighty nation, even though they were at this time few in number. God would fulfill His promise through Jacob and his descendents that he made to Abraham many years before.

This would not happen overnight and would take many years to fulfill.

In the meantime, Jacob would continue to live his life and wait upon the LORD to bring about His promises knowing that He is faithful.

In Shechem, Jacob’s life was filled with joyful moments and he, like us, had his share of sorrowful moments.

First, his daughter Dinah was defiled by the son of Shechem, the prince of the Hivites. It turns out that this son of Shechem did love Dinah and asked his father, the prince, to arrange for them to be married.

The prince of Shechem went to Jacob and told him that his son loved his daughter and wanted to marry her. He also told Jacob about what had already transpired with his son and Dinah.

Shechem asked for her hand in marriage to his son and asked for favor from Jacob. He also said he would pay whatever price Jacob asked. He invited Jacob’s sons to marry their daughters and to live in the land with them and do business there.

Jacob was surely distressed, but “held his peace” until he spoke with his sons who were out in the field tending to the animals.

Upon learning this news, Jacob’s sons were indignant at their sister’s defilement and deceived Shechem and his son by telling them all the men of their tribe must be circumcised so that his son may marry Dinah. Shechem agreed and once all the men were circumcised, Jacob’s sons, Simeon and Levi, went into their village and attacked and killed all the males. They took Dinah out of their city and plundered it by taking their wives, children, and livestock.  

When Jacob found out, he was furious with Simeon and Levi telling them that they were few in number compared to the Canaanites and would be attacked because of their deceitful actions.

Then God appeared to Jacob and told him to leave the area and go to Bethel (“house of God” in Hebrew) where he first met God after he fled from Esau more than twenty years prior.

The Bible says that as Jacob and his family were on their way to Bethel, God caused the cities around them to fear Jacob so that they would not attack them.

When Jacob and his family arrived at Bethel, God spoke to him.

And God said to him, “I am almighty God: be fruitful and multiply. A nation and a company of nations shall come from you, and kings shall come from your own body. The land that I gave to Abraham and Isaac I will give to you, and I will give the land to your offspring after you.”

Genesis 35:11-13 ESV

Soon after this, Rachel gave birth to her second and last son, Benjamin. She died just as Benjamin was born. Even though Jacob was married to Leah, Rachel’s sister, and had two concubines, it was Rachel that he loved most.

Then Reuben, his eldest son, slept with Bilhah, his father’s concubine. She was also Rachel’s servant and mother of his half-brothers Dan and Naphtali.

To add to all these sorrows, Isaac, his father died. He was 180 years of age.

This must have been a very difficult time for Jacob. The loss of his beloved Rachel and his father probably created a mountain of loneliness in his life. Then his only daughter being defiled, not to mention the hurt and betrayal caused by Reuben, Simeon, and Levi were surely grievous.

Jacob’s relationship with God must have been very strong to keep him going and looking forward to the promises that God made to him.

We are told by our LORD Jesus Christ that in this life, there will be trouble. (John 16:33)

None of us are exempt. This life is worth living despite the losses, upsets, and betrayals.

God is still on the throne and is very much in control of all things. Be encouraged and trust God with your life.

If you belong to Him, He has a plan for your life filled with joy and purpose.  

When we have a relationship with God, we may have hurts, but we know Whom to turn to for consolation and strength. He is faithful!

Join me next for Israel—Chosen by God: Jacob – Part 6

Below is a beautiful song from one of my all-time favorite Christian bands. I hope it blesses you.

“God of All My Days” – Casting Crowns

Israel—Chosen by God:  Jacob – Part 3

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This week we continue the story of Jacob’s life after he marries both Leah and Rachel.

If you remember from “Israel—Chosen by God: Jacob – Part 2,” Jacob was tricked into marrying Leah by his uncle Laban. He had worked seven years for whom he thought was Rachel, Leah’s younger sister. He woke up the morning after the wedding ceremony and found out it was Leah who was with him. He was not at all happy about this and confronted Laban who insisted that he had to marry his oldest daughter first. Laban offered Rachel to Jacob in marriage for another seven years of work and Jacob accepted this offer because it was Rachel whom he loved.

Messed up!

And this is in the Bible? Oh yes, and it is true.

The good news is that God can take our human mess and use it for His purpose and for our good.

Let’s continue the story.

Jacob’s children

Jacob fathered 12 sons and 1 daughter by Leah, Rachel, and their handmaids. His first four children were born to Leah—Reuben, Simeon, Levi, and Judah. Rachel had been without a child for a few years and was quite upset about this, so she gave her servant Bilhah to him so that she could conceive a child for her. Bilhah gave birth to Dan.

Once again, we witness a chosen and loved wife feeling insecure about not having a child of her own. You would think that this lesson would have been passed down and learned from Sarah and Abraham. Instead of taking her concern of being barren to the LORD, Rachel became jealous of her sister Leah and devised a way of having children through her handmaid.

We cause ourselves a multitude of problems when we do not trust God and lay our sensitive issues before Him.  

Not long after Dan was born, Bilhah gave birth to another son named Naphtali.

Then Leah could not conceive, so she gave her servant Zilpah to Jacob as a wife in hopes of having more children. Zilpah gave birth to Gad and then to Asher.

I personally cannot imagine sharing my husband with any woman, let alone three other wives with their own children. I guess you could say that I have a righteous jealousy. I wouldn’t be able to live this way, not to mention the chaos that comes with all of this.

This was not God’s design.

No matter how one may explain or even excuse this behavior, God created one woman for one man (Genesis 2:20b-24).

Eventually Leah became pregnant again and bore Issachar; and then again with Zebulun; and again, with a daughter, Dinah.

Finally, Rachel was able to conceive and gave birth to Joseph. Later after Jacob’s return to Canaan, Rachel gave birth to Benjamin.

Jacob Becomes Successful

After many years of shepherding in both Canaan and Haran, Jacob was very knowledgeable in the breeding and raising of sheep and goats.

He lived in Haran and worked for Laban fourteen years, completing his commitment for his wives. During these years, all his children except Benjamin were born in Haran.

Jacob decided to leave and return to his family in Canaan. He spoke with his uncle about his intentions, but Laban wanted him to stay and offered him whatever he asked. Laban knew that God was with Jacob and had blessed him through Jacob’s work these fourteen years.

Jacob wanted nothing from Laban and told him so, but he decided to work with him a while longer to show his uncle once again his loyalty to him.  It turned out that Jacob stayed another six years.

During this time, Laban tried to make it as difficult as possible for Jacob to be successful and separated Jacob from him a distance of three days travel.

But God was with Jacob and he became even more successful.

Instead of being grateful for Jacob’s success, Laban and his sons became jealous and began accusing Jacob of cheating them and stealing from them.

At this point, God was ready for Jacob to return to his family in Canaan.

And Jacob saw that Laban did not regard him with favor as before. Then the LORD said to Jacob, “Return to the land of your fathers and to your kindred, and I will be with you.”

Genesis 31:2-3

God’s timing is perfect!

We need to remember this when we are feeling down and disappointed with the difficulties in our lives. We may not see it, but God is always working on behalf of his children.

Our focus should always be on serving and following God—no matter what.

In the famous words of Dr. Charles Stanley, one of my lifelong mentors in the LORD, “Obey God and leave all the consequences up to Him.”

We will have success when we wait upon the LORD. It may not be easy and it may be a long wait, but God has only the best intentions for us. We may not understand it at the time, but if we will trust Him and walk in obedience to Him, we will one day understand why God allowed difficulties in our lives. Sometimes, we perpetrate these hardships, other times we are being refined and groomed for God’s purposes.

After God tells Jacob that it’s time to leave Haran, he immediately speaks to Leah and Rachel to let them know that they will be leaving for Canaan. Jacob reminds them of how he served their father, Laban, faithfully all these years and was loyal to him. He reminds them how their father cheated him again and again, and is now becoming hostile toward him. He also tells them that God has seen all this and has made him successful anyway, and is now telling him to leave for Canaan.  

Jacob’s wives respond in favor of leaving.

Then Rachel and Leah answered and said to him, “Is there any portion or inheritance left to us in our father’s house? Are we not regarded by him as foreigners? For he has sold us, and he has indeed devoured our money. All the wealth that God has taken away from our father belongs to us and to our children. Now then, whatever God has said to you, do.”

Genesis 31:14-16

Imagine trying to convince your spouse to leave their family and the only home they’ve ever known under such circumstances. Jacob had to convince two wives who were sisters, jealous of each other and who worked against each other.

When God is in it, He makes the way possible!

Jacob leaves Paddan-aram (Haran) without notifying Laban, and heads toward Canaan with his wives, children, servants, and livestock. The Bible tells us that he was wealthy, and in those days, this meant a lot of people and flocks were part of the caravan leaving Haran. This was going to be a long, slow journey.

Join me next for Israel—Chosen by God: Jacob – Part 4

Wishing you God’s abundant blessings as you walk with Him.

Below is a beautiful song about how God always makes a way for us when He is in our battles.

Don’t give up following God—He is with you and for you!  

Way Maker – Leeland