In the previous post, Israel—Chosen by God: Jacob – Part 4, we left off with Jacob getting ready to meet his brother Esau whom he hadn’t seen in 20 years. He feared Esau would harm him and his family, so he sent his servants ahead of him and his family away from him, just in case. Then the Angel of the LORD came to Jacob and struggled with him. God renamed him “Israel” for contending with Him and prevailing.

Today we will learn about Israel’s encounter with Esau.

Jacob was now limping as he was walking toward Esau because his hip was pulled from its socket during the encounter with the Angel of the LORD. He went ahead of his family to meet Esau and bowed seven times before Esau as a sign of peace and humility. Esau surprised him by embracing and kissing him, and after meeting Jacob’s family, he asked Jacob why he sent all the gifts by his servants. Jacob explained that he wanted favor from him.  

Esau was also wealthy and told Jacob to keep the gifts for himself, but Jacob insisted that he take them.

Jacob said, “No, please, if I have found favor in your sight, then accept my present from my hand. For I have seen your face, which is like seeing the face of God, and you have accepted me. Please accept my blessing that is brought to you, because God has dealt graciously with me, and because I have enough.” Thus he urged him, and he took it.

Genesis 33:10-11 ESV

This is a good lesson in making amends with estranged family members.

There were no harsh words traded, no past wrongs brought up; just every effort made by both parties to make peace and get along with each other.

Be humble and do everything possible to make peace; and accept the peace offering made by the person who humbles himself to start the healing process. 

This is how our heavenly Father wants us to be—at peace with one another.

After 20 years of separation, perhaps they both learned that nothing is worth harboring hurt and doing harm to one another.

Esau wanted Jacob to travel back with him, but Jacob insisted that he would only slow him down with children and so many livestock.

Jacob traveled on to Shechem where he made his home and Esau went back to his home in Seir.

Shechem and Seir were a great distance from each other and it was probably best that these brothers settled so far apart. Who knows what could have happened to their relationship if they had lived near each other. Remember that Jacob was the youngest and was given the blessing to rule over Esau and his offspring.

I believe that it was by God’s design that they lived apart from one another due to His plans for Jacob, now called Israel.

Israel was chosen by God to become a mighty nation, even though they were at this time few in number. God would fulfill His promise through Jacob and his descendents that he made to Abraham many years before.

This would not happen overnight and would take many years to fulfill.

In the meantime, Jacob would continue to live his life and wait upon the LORD to bring about His promises knowing that He is faithful.

In Shechem, Jacob’s life was filled with joyful moments and he, like us, had his share of sorrowful moments.

First, his daughter Dinah was defiled by the son of Shechem, the prince of the Hivites. It turns out that this son of Shechem did love Dinah and asked his father, the prince, to arrange for them to be married.

The prince of Shechem went to Jacob and told him that his son loved his daughter and wanted to marry her. He also told Jacob about what had already transpired with his son and Dinah.

Shechem asked for her hand in marriage to his son and asked for favor from Jacob. He also said he would pay whatever price Jacob asked. He invited Jacob’s sons to marry their daughters and to live in the land with them and do business there.

Jacob was surely distressed, but “held his peace” until he spoke with his sons who were out in the field tending to the animals.

Upon learning this news, Jacob’s sons were indignant at their sister’s defilement and deceived Shechem and his son by telling them all the men of their tribe must be circumcised so that his son may marry Dinah. Shechem agreed and once all the men were circumcised, Jacob’s sons, Simeon and Levi, went into their village and attacked and killed all the males. They took Dinah out of their city and plundered it by taking their wives, children, and livestock.  

When Jacob found out, he was furious with Simeon and Levi telling them that they were few in number compared to the Canaanites and would be attacked because of their deceitful actions.

Then God appeared to Jacob and told him to leave the area and go to Bethel (“house of God” in Hebrew) where he first met God after he fled from Esau more than twenty years prior.

The Bible says that as Jacob and his family were on their way to Bethel, God caused the cities around them to fear Jacob so that they would not attack them.

When Jacob and his family arrived at Bethel, God spoke to him.

And God said to him, “I am almighty God: be fruitful and multiply. A nation and a company of nations shall come from you, and kings shall come from your own body. The land that I gave to Abraham and Isaac I will give to you, and I will give the land to your offspring after you.”

Genesis 35:11-13 ESV

Soon after this, Rachel gave birth to her second and last son, Benjamin. She died just as Benjamin was born. Even though Jacob was married to Leah, Rachel’s sister, and had two concubines, it was Rachel that he loved most.

Then Reuben, his eldest son, slept with Bilhah, his father’s concubine. She was also Rachel’s servant and mother of his half-brothers Dan and Naphtali.

To add to all these sorrows, Isaac, his father died. He was 180 years of age.

This must have been a very difficult time for Jacob. The loss of his beloved Rachel and his father probably created a mountain of loneliness in his life. Then his only daughter being defiled, not to mention the hurt and betrayal caused by Reuben, Simeon, and Levi were surely grievous.

Jacob’s relationship with God must have been very strong to keep him going and looking forward to the promises that God made to him.

We are told by our LORD Jesus Christ that in this life, there will be trouble. (John 16:33)

None of us are exempt. This life is worth living despite the losses, upsets, and betrayals.

God is still on the throne and is very much in control of all things. Be encouraged and trust God with your life.

If you belong to Him, He has a plan for your life filled with joy and purpose.  

When we have a relationship with God, we may have hurts, but we know Whom to turn to for consolation and strength. He is faithful!

Join me next for Israel—Chosen by God: Jacob – Part 6

Below is a beautiful song from one of my all-time favorite Christian bands. I hope it blesses you.

“God of All My Days” – Casting Crowns